Growing up (haibun)

Our host at Carpe Diem Haiku Kai has given us the Prompt “wings” and gave us a few quotes from Khalil Gibran in Sand and Foam.  However, when I think of wings there are several meanings that come to mind.  This morning I saw a haiku by MarkM Redfearn for this prompt.  I did not know it was an offering to this prompt at the time, but his haiku inspired me to write something about children, war and wings at “Do not weep for me” But after reading several times our host’s prompt I am reminded of two situations.

I like how our host describes how amazing it would be to fly and visit the world, look down at our planet from above. That would be so cool!  As children we believe that some humans can actually fly. My son certainly did believe in Superman when he was only two and a half. I was almost nine months pregnant with his little sister and I had gone into the house for a moment to check something on the stove. We lived in the country and my son had been playing in the sandbox when I had gone in. When I came out to join him in the backyard, my neighbor came rushing to me out of breath. My son had climbed the metal tower for the television antennae and was on the roof of my neighbour’s house.  He was singing the intro song of the show “Superman”.  I called up to him and told him to wait for mommy to join him, but my tummy was too big to manage the climb. Another neighbour’s teenager went up for me.  My son believed he could fly…Dear Lord, I was so grateful he had not jumped!

it’s a bird
it’s a plane
it’s superman

So when we talk about flying, that story always comes to mind.
My mother and I are very very close.  Growing up I always felt connected and even after I married (still young at 19) that bond was still very strong.  In fact, I remember at 22, we had moved about a thirty minute drive from her and I experienced separation anxiety for a year. Well, not like a child, but I had developed pain in my shoulder for a long time and a rheumatologist had told me to figure out what had changed in my life in the past few months and that that was the root of my pain.  I was quite insulted of his insinuation that it was psychosomatic but he was right. The pain went away on its own several months later.

Growing up as a teenager, I had never really rebelled or given my mother a difficult time like many teenagers naturally do. My parents had divorced when I was a teen and I felt even closer to my mother, wanting to protect her and take care of her.  It was when my own marriage ended, 24 years later, I moved 6 hours away from home to start a new life and a new career.  That was the first time I had actually cut the umbilical cord…really!  Indeed, at 40 something, I was finally spreading my own wings and becoming an independent woman.   I was definitely a late bloomer but better late than never, right?  I could not help but choose a photo of a dove to represent my moving on with my life.  In this case we are talking about separating from my mother, Colombe (which means dove)

LiveAnimal list - Dove Flying

growing pains
sever symbiosis
spread your wings

© Tournesol

Submittted for: Carpe Diem#540, Wings

Posted by Cheryl-Lynn Roberts, 2014/08/16


  1. Spreading one's wings is sometimes easier said than done.

    Wingless Butterfly

  2. Oh for sure, it is not the fear of falling but the fear of leaving others behind.

  3. When I was a kid I climbed onto the roof and pretended to be the Caped Avenger. With my pink bathrobe tied around my neck as a cape. Oy.

    1. Oyvey!! He had his treed cape and superman t shirt on too!!

  4. Those days.... can a mother ever accept it though?

    1. Good grandmother never let my mom go, so my mom was somewhat also clutching...I started letting go slowly when my kids were intimately involved with teens. I never wanted them to feel that guilt that I did.

  5. Time to spread your wings Cheryl Lynn ... and with your unique way of composing haiku and writing haibun you will find your new goals ... very nice post.

    1. Kistjaan, thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement. I am pleased you enjoyed this because if you check out my blog at Traces which you know about, I have always been transparent in my writing and haibun is a style that I feel is a bit like sharing a story, preparing for the haiku and giving just enough of yourself as well to make it real .


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